Still Such Gayness

As the new year begins, some things sadly remain unchanged.  Our next generation of homosexuals seems fated to develop warped priorities towards society and each other.  The gay community needs a message like the recent one that Gillette made for straight men who act alike by shirking decency.   

The advertisement suggested that men stop stereotypes, stop condoning inexcusable negative behavior, and do "the right things" of decency.

Gay men are infamous for shirking decency in public.  They're overly proud of it.

Too many crave attention... like the "class clown" in school.



In their outfits, online requests, social media postings, entrances into the room, and reactions to things... their attitude says: "it's all about me".

In doing so, they exclude too much, which doesn't create a healthy environment. 


The pinnacle of gay culture still involves men with muscles.  Not in the ancient Greek way, which included intellect and a sense of duty.  Muscular men are exalted--regardless of their cruelty.  

What do you think that does to the next generation of young guys who mimic and imprint the examples set for them?

Go online to see the results and their priorities: 

Outfits that gay men deem acceptable create more momentum.  A slim-fitting shirt isn't good enough.





These next outfits are what my "community" wears to endless parties and parades.  It's how they prefer to be seen.  It symbolizes that sex is their top priority.

But, you must physically look a certain way for those "expected" outfits to look good on you.








That puts emphasis on guys to conform their appearances. Since gay "social functions" expect those outfits, it adds even more pressure.

So, the next generation of young men contort themselves and shift their priorities early.

Additionally, such culture doesn't encourage relationships: it demands quickies, hook-ups, "ghosting" people, flaking out, deceit, lies, and running out on your friends/family whenever you get a message for sexual fun.

The language is demeaning, too.

After years of sex apps, guys still don't care to get to know or discover things about one another; they minimize humanity for their needs.  It doesn't foster inclusiveness.

     The inexplicable need to separately hashtag everything as "gay" also excludes us; it doesn't blend us within society.  You don't say "female doctor" anymore!  Why say all of this...

Too many gay bars & clubs focus on stereotypes, making other people into outsiders...

     A recent article in "Pink News" blamed Grindr for creating a whole generation of trigger-fingered horny men.  It also forged a bias against minorities, who felt inferior.  e.g.: "No Asians" or "No femms" or "No fats" or "No bears" or "Only uncut".  It fostered a shark-like aquarium of sex seekers, who only want to conveniently do the deed and then ditch their partner.  Rarely do they reconnect (because they think the options are so plenteous).  

Example: "I really think you're great, you did everything I wanted, and last night was awesome, but I'm going to move on and keep enjoying myself with more people."

Spontaneous/anonymous situations and unsafe sex practices are also increasingly encouraged.  

It's rare to see guys get attracted to each other like this...

     Too many gay guys have fractured minds.  Maybe it's from watching too many "reality drama" shows on TV or online, where people get voted/kicked off, during each episode (which are full of in-fighting, hysterics, and backstabbing).  Maybe it's because sex apps on cellphones make it too easy to totally disregard humans with a "click" or "swipe left".  Maybe it's because gay guys believe that their reactions and behaviors must be full of over-the-top drama, outrage, snarkiness, and judgement against others.  In truth, they're hostile towards love, and very few can keep relationships of any kind.

Regarding dating possibilities, men over-examine their choices.  (just like catty "reality shows" where people routinely get disqualified?)

As that behavior became widespread, it was considered normal.  "Everyone does it".  The problem is, you can't connect to such cookie-cutter shallowness.

As seen on the subway, sidewalk, and retail showroom, too many gay guys affect an air of smug superiority.  It's not welcoming or endearing.  Acting like you're better than others doesn't encourage society to like you.  Alas, they don't care because they live in their own worlds.

It was all mocked in a movie called "Mean Boys".

     Countless times, I've seen an "obviously gay" guy enter a cafe or get on the subway and take a moment to scrutinize everyone with a cursory glance.  If they spot a cutie, they stare openly... hoping to connect.  

     However, if they don't consider anyone to be attractive, they promptly submerge themselves in headphones and sunglasses, wearing a bored facial expression or a holier-than-thou grimace.  That doesn't come across as approachable or inclusive.  

     The same guys take unlimited selfies (all about themselves) wherever they go.  They're the centerpiece, not the scenery.  They enjoy pushing the boundaries of their sexuality and polyamory, but they don't truly welcome many people into their life.  However, having acquaintances to fill a party or having phony Friends Lists on Facebook doesn't count.

     In reality, this is how people should behave...

Then, men wouldn't need so much botox and muscle-growth hormones--looking like plumped-up Perdue chicken breasts.

Their inexplicable need for "shameless selfies" (ALWAYS shirtless) indicates how fragile those guys are.

Constantly hungry for attention, but not giving anybody else attention.

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Reviewing everything, it's no wonder that so many homosexuals look homogenized. 

The guy below, who proclaims to be "different", acts just like EVERY OTHER stereotypical gay guy.  Despite his claims, his mimicking habits actually hide his uniqueness. 

    My friends who work at clinics and counseling centers describe how many young gay men get unbearably frustrated or depressed when they enter a gay mecca like snarky New York City.  

Instead of surrendering their principles, they ought to seek out better companions and settle for a life that's not based on Instagram images.