In the gay community, folks have no shame in making that murderous tragedy all about themselves, instead of the victims. They want attention/praise for their sentiments. With Pride Weekend approaching, they use the tragedy as an excuse to keep partying as if nothing happened. "We're gonna party hard to show the world that we're not going to be stopped." I'm sure they were going to party hard anyway, so why make the excuse? I'm certain that bar/club owners, promoters, and developers are in full greedy agreement... while they merely Tweet their prayers/concerns for the fallen. How about if they gave half of their proceeds/profits to the cause? That would be better!
An acquaintance of mine posted the following statements on Facebook. My interpretation is in parenthesis.
"Another emotional day, for sure... Still trying to understand it all"
(you're clueless and don't usually concern yourself with reality, world events, or the existence of others outside your clique)
"and trying to figure out what to do to help."
(you'll do nothing)
"Cannot wait for Chicago Gay Pride, this coming weekend"
(back to your priorities: to party hard like nothing happened)
"to continue to stand together and show this hate that nothing keeps us down!"
(an excuse to party/strip/seduce/substance abuse)
"Let's go celebrate being who we want to be, regardless of what people think!"
(that sounds like a spoiled bratty child... like the T-shirt worn below: "I'm perfect. You change").
The Pride movement doesn't say to do whatever you want, while ignoring others. It says to be authentic. You're not authentic if you've layered yourself with falsities. Being homosexual is NOT a "Get Out of Jail Free" card, so you can behave as outlandishly as you want without responsibility. It's almost as if some gay guys don't want to be mature; they want to keep acting whimsical, untamed, and teenage.
Maybe they truly want a "Paris Hilton/Justin Bieber" lifestyle (since it's glamorized, like MTV's slogan "money for nothing and the checks for free"). Maybe they want to mimic characters from the film "Party Monster".
But, that behavior merely makes the gay community look stereotypical... as it was portrayed in the 1950s as a sex-crazed unsafe world of uncontrollable debauchery. As I previously blogged, the gay culture's tolerance and encouragement of unsafe sex is not helping. What you see when you go online and look up a "gay bar" or "gay film" doesn't help either. The results are always slutty. Pride flags on a beach or restaurant signify a safe haven, but they now simultaneously seem to keep out everyone else. That's not going to foster "inclusion" or acceptance from the rest of the world.
Aside from LGBT events or performing arts, how many gay guys want to "give back" to the community? Volunteer? Soup kitchens? Meals-On-Wheels? Civic policy? Park clean-up? Youth mentorships? Of course, nobody wants to be in a "rat race", but presenting a good face to the community--that you want acceptance/support from--is important. See my blog entry about Chelsea, NY to realize how often the opposite attitude is shown by gay men.
Like a Barbie doll, maybe it gets too much encouragement.
Seen above, Timmy is a go-go boy at NYC gay bars... often requested/chauffeured to Fire Island and SoHo House parties. People who know him--including his dry cleaner, Uber drivers, and coffee barista--said this about him:
"He's a great person. Always full of sunshine."
"Happy, crazy, and wild."
"His energy is incredible."
"He's hilarious."
"A pain in the ass drama queen."
"Gorgeous, funny."
"So carefree and fabulous."
"dreamy"
"Crazy because he does whatever he wants; he doesn't care."
"He inspires me!"
Well, when you lead his lifestyle, you might naturally (temporarily) impress people around you (who don't need to rely on you)--during your spare time--who live vicariously through you to feel better. However, it's thought-provoking that they like Timmy because he does whatever he wants, without caring. He's not saving the rainforests; he's merely partying all of the time.
Another long-standing "twink" in Chelsea recently admitted online, "It wasn't until recently when I started making a conscious effort to remember people's names and say it back to them during conversation that I realized I was being a lazy butthole. When I meet someone new and they remember my name, it's like they understand and value my humanity. That feels radical. They are identifying the fact that I have a separate life from them. There is really no excuse besides excessive alcohol consumption for not making more of an effort to look someone in the eyes when you meet them and remember their names as best you can. And really, being drunk is a shit excuse for not fully respecting people."
A grown man in his early 30s is barely recognizing his own social behavior... despite being center of social attention for years in NYC.
Regarding the shooting, instead of gratifying themselves, how many gay guys will organize a rally/protest to government officials? How many will use their "connections" to get media coverage? Or push hard to investigate our gun laws? Or start offering education to the public and gay youth? Or create a fundraiser (even a go-fund-me profile) for victims' loved ones? Maybe instead of letting Pride Parades and parties resemble HustlaBall or the Folsom Street Fair, they can be educational/inspirational. The gay community has worked hard to show the world that it's horny. How will it demonstrate something else?
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