Friday, January 22, 2016

How People Hide & Avoid Their Flaws

After 6 months observing this guy at my local coffee shop, I've seen again how people deliberately "rewrite their stories" and hide their own accountability for their problems.
     Max is a good-looking, 24-year-old Venezuelan.  He wears dirty shirts (literally dark around the collar/cuffs)... because he doesn't wash them.  He has dirt under his fingernails.  He repeatedly says that he doesn't carry cash because he'll spend it fast.  He's immature.  He's been "job hopping" for several months.  He had a great job as a graphic artist (hired by the company's CEO) but he quit... to be a "roadie" for Comedy Central.  His parents (in Miami) have been paying for much of his life to continue.  His girlfriend (of 4 months) finally exploded angrily at him.  Max can't understand why.
     He bemoaned how his cellphone was cut off until he got a paycheck and could pay the bill.  We knew that his girlfriend was "on the way out of his life" when he started talking again about "dating life" in NYC.  Max has a strict policy: he takes a lot of different girls out to the same Taco eatery in the East Village of Manhattan.  He keeps the cost of his "first dates" under $48.  Tacos?!  When a woman in the coffee shop ridiculed him, citing the poor first impressions he gave, he replied, "They have to earn the good impression!"  
     Max prefers dating girls over the age of 18 (so they can stay out late) but under 24 (so they're not too smart).  He chooses girls who are "new" to the city because they won't be too critical of his "first dates".  They'll just be awestruck at having a meal in Manhattan.  He loves NYC for its constant influx of impressionable/naive females.
     His girlfriend is French and took him to France for a week at Christmas, to meet her family.  Most of the expenses were generously paid by her family.  Max was supposed to learn a small amount of French language.  He admitted that he didn't bother with that.  So unappreciative!  Thus, during the week, Max was unable to converse with his girlfriend's family.  Instead of apologizing, he attacked her for trying to "change him".
     In fact, they moved in together (in Brooklyn) to save Max money!  Ergo, when their relationship got "rocky", he--instead of making things better--made a "manly" decision and ended it.  He spent the last 2 nights at friends' apartments, since he avoids returning to the one he legally shares with his girlfriend.  She's probably so upset, betrayed and humiliated.  (Hopefully, she's learning lessons fast).
     Max was overheard on the phone lying to his landlord--trying to break the lease--saying that his girlfriend is being deported.  Another false story.  
     People tried encouraging him to rectify things with his girlfriend... to see her perspective.  No.  Max merely figured that she was emotionally unstable.  He held no accountability for what he'd done to make their union turn sour.  
     Hopefully, the girl finds someone worthy of her (and mends her heart).  Hopefully, Max realizes that "Karma is only a bitch when you are".

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